I began to train in NVC Mediation almost two years ago, and have been doing so consistently ever since. I’ve enjoyed and grown from the process so much — playfully switching roles: first playing a ‘conflictant’ and then donning a mediator’s cap (perhaps a sublimation of my fascination with Method acting?) — that I sometimes wonder if it would have even been possible, at least for me, to have learned NVC without it. Increasingly I envision our practice call as a kind of laboratory where we test ‘mediation hypotheses’ — observing conflicts (both within and without) — or as a kind of brain trust or mastermind (collective) that gathers to build the toolbox from which we each can Mediate Y/our Life.
Sunday, August 25, 2013 ~ Interview(s): NVC Mediation
John Kinyon on NVC-Mediation
(interview by Torsten Hardiess)
What do you mean by “mediate your life”?
- Internal. The conflict is inside your own head, between aspects of yourself.
- Self-other/interpersonal. The conflict is between you and someone else.
- Informal. You mediate someone else’s conflict without being asked to do so.
- Formal. You mediate someone else’s conflict at their request.
In honor of MLK, who mediated our racial divide a half century ago, with his nonviolent oratory…
The speech took less than 18 minutes to deliver.
It was inspired by wording in the Bible, the Declaration of Independence, the U.S. Constitution, the works of William Shakespeare and Abraham Lincoln’s Emancipation Proclamation and Gettysburg Address.
It talked about the “shameful condition” of a country where basic rights, including life and liberty, were denied because of skin color.
It was named the top American speech of the 20th century in a poll of scholars.
Its most famous lines — eight sentences that begin “I have a dream” — were not in the original text. They were added as the speech was being delivered… (continues)