September 23, 2012 ~ Practice with Connected Conversations

Sunday, September 23, 2012 ~ Practice with Connected Conversations

Inspired by Newt Bailey & Ali Miller’s Presentation of  The Compassion Switch: Finding and flipping on the compassion switch

via:  BayNVC – Growing CompassionBuilding On Interdependence

“The greatest compliment that was ever paid me was when one asked me what I thought and attended my answer.”
~ Henry David Thoreau

Despite having been fascinated with verse 69 of the  Tao Te Ching, as to ‘yielding’ (see beneath — i.e. bringing softness to hardness, as water erodes rock) for decades, I find the notion of empathizing amidst a heated exchange to be quite challenging at times.  Newt Bailey compared it to the turning of a massive oil tanker midstream, shifting direction — as with switching from aggressivity to empathy during conflict — as an oft excruciatingly gradual process.  One tip offered was to becoming more aware of cues, such as ‘this conversation is no longer enjoyable’ as a prompt towards trying something else (insanity often defined as doing the same thing and expecting different results).

Thumbnail image for “Connected Conversation Process” – instructional video

Here Ali Miller and Newt Bailey portray a couple, Debbie and Jason, who have a mildly contentious conversation. They then try using the “Connected Conversation Process,” the foundational process of the Communication Dojo, to navigate through their conflict with greater mutual understanding and connection.
The 2 Parts and 4 Components of NVC
NVC Model

Two monologues do not make a dialogue.
~ Jeff Daly

“Connected Conversation Process” – instructional video

Chapter 69, Tao Te Ching

In the beginning aggressiveness seems to win,
But at the end, he who is compassionate wins.”
–   Translated by Octavian Sarbatoare, 2002, Chapter 69 

Kashtan, “A Naturalizing the NVC language comes from aligning ourselves with the truth and expressing from that place.”

Videos — Communication Dojo

Recording of Newt Bailey’s Presentation of  “Connected Conversation Process

Newt Bailey – The Compassion Switch: Finding and flipping on the compassion switch:

BayNVC Telesummit

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