July 28, 2013 ~ Keys to Mindful Communication

Last week, we discussed saying “Ouch!” when it hurts (i.e. as when things are no longer in ‘green-lighted’ flow, but either/both interlocutors are in the yellow/red zones…).

Sunday, July 28, 2013 ~ Keys to Mindful Communication

This week we’ll begin to tease out the how of ‘mindful communication’…

The Five Keys To Mindful Communication – YouTube

The Five Keys to Mindful Communication – Shambhala Publications

Good communication is essential to any healthy relationship, whether it’s between spouses, family members, friends, or co-workers, and mindfulness—the practice of nonjudgmental awareness—can help us communicate more effectively and meaningfully with others in our personal and professional lives. Here, Susan Chapman, a psychotherapist and long-time Buddhist practitioner, explains how the practice of mindfulness awareness can change the way we speak and listen, enhance our relationships, and help us achieve our goals.

Chapman highlights five key elements of mindful communication—silence, mirroring, encouraging, discerning, and responding—that make it possible for us to listen more deeply to others and to develop greater clarity and confidence about how to respond. Other topics include

  • identifying your communication patterns and habits;
  • uncovering the hidden fears that often sabotage communication;
  • staying open in the midst of difficult conversations so that we can respond wisely and skillfully;
  • and learning how mindful communication can help us to become more truthful, compassionate, and flexible in our relationships.

[PDF] The Five Keys To Mindful Communication © Book Study Guidelines

“Mindful-communication training isn’t directed at intimate relationships alone. It is a personal journey that uses the sensitive emotional ups and downs of everyday conversations as a path of self-discovery. The awakens of our natural communication system is a thread that runs through every moment of our lives. Practicing mindfulness helps us notice this truth. We can observe ourselves opening and closing in small ways throughout the day.”

(The Five Keys to Mindful Communication, p.13)

“In a clear and at times humorous style this encouraging book gives our heart the green light to open. Susan Chapman presents accessible practices from Buddhism and the best in psychology to help this happen.”—David Richo, author of Coming Home to Who You Are

“This is an invaluable resource for anyone who longs for connection with others. Susan Chapman’s simple explanations and engaging stories provide us with practical tools that let us recognize our shared humanity, moving us from a ‘me-first’ approach to a ‘we-first’ one.”—Karen Kissel Wegela, author of The Courage to Be Present and What Really Helps

See also:

Green-Light-CommunicationYellow-Light-Communication Red-Light-Communication

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