Sunday, August 11, 2013 ~ Green Light Communication
The four NVC components of observations, feelings, needs, and requests serve to amplify mindfulness in our interactions with others:
Do I want to “get my way” &/or “be right”
Do I want to connect?
Notice the parallels between the above NVC communication flow charts and the red/yellow/green-light symbolism beneath…
Notice when you’ve become defensive and closed off. Be careful. Communicating in this zone can lead to difficult and painful reactions.
Pay attention to the limbo between open and closed. Relax with the uncertainty. Pause, reflect, linger there, and let possibilities emerge.
When your state of mind is open, feel free to explore your connection with others. Share. Learn. Change. Expand.
Susan Chapman is a marriage and family therapist and author who presents training programs applying mindfulness to conversations, relationships and communities.
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