August 25, 2013 ~ Interview: NVC Mediation


I began to train in NVC Mediation almost two years ago, and have been doing so consistently ever since.  I’ve enjoyed and grown from the process so much — playfully switching roles: first playing a ‘conflictant’ and then donning a mediator’s cap (perhaps a sublimation of my fascination with Method acting?) — that I sometimes wonder if it would have even been possible, at least for me, to have learned NVC without it.  Increasingly I envision our practice call as a kind of laboratory where we test ‘mediation hypotheses’ — observing conflicts (both within and without) — or as a kind of brain trust or mastermind (collective) that gathers to build the toolbox from which we each can Mediate Y/our Life.

Sunday, August 25, 2013 ~ Interview(s): NVC Mediation

As we continue to experiment with the “iGiraffe” it seems relevant to pose the question:  What it Means to Mediate Your Life — whether  intrapersonally or interpersonally?

(See also:  intrapersonal communication/interpersonal communication)

Ike Lasater, NVC Mediation on Vimeo

John Kinyon on NVC-Mediation
(interview by Torsten Hardiess)

John Kinyon on NVC-Mediation

John Kinyon on NVC-Mediation interview by Torsten Hardiess – Full Version

What do you mean by “mediate your life”?

“Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”
Viktor E. Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning

Four contexts:

  • Internal. The conflict is inside your own head, between aspects of yourself.
  • Self-other/interpersonal. The conflict is between you and someone else.
  • Informal. You mediate someone else’s conflict without being asked to do so.
  • Formal. You mediate someone else’s conflict at their request.

Ike Lasater & John Kinyon, NVC Mediation on Vimeo


Self-Connection Process

Breath, Body, Need

Enemy Image Process

John Kinyon:  Feelings and Needs

More videos:  Mediate Your Life: A Training Company

Additional Resources:

Choosing Peace: New Ways to Communicate to Reduce Stress, Create Connection, and Resolve Conflict. (eBook) by John Kinyon and Ike Lasater

Additional Handouts via Mediate Your Life

Videos about “mediate your life” on Vimeo

Kashtan: Being Powerful in the Moment & Intention and Effect

BayNVC – Practicing NVC Dialogs with Mair Alight – 4 week Call Series

Kate Raffin:  Flowers, Tears & Lightbulbs Journal

5 Steps of NVC-Mediation – Nonviolent Communication – by Ike Lasater

9 Skills of NVC-Mediation – Nonviolent Communication

50 Years Later, the Untold History of the March on Washington – Democracy Now!

In honor of MLK, who mediated our racial divide a half century ago, with his nonviolent oratory…

I have a dream – King’s words are long remembered

The speech took less than 18 minutes to deliver.

It was inspired by wording in the Bible, the Declaration of Independence, the U.S. Constitution, the works of William Shakespeare and Abraham Lincoln’s Emancipation Proclamation and Gettysburg Address.

It talked about the “shameful condition” of a country where basic rights, including life and liberty, were denied because of skin color.

It was named the top American speech of the 20th century in a poll of scholars.

Its most famous lines — eight sentences that begin “I have a dream” — were not in the original text. They were added as the speech was being delivered… (continues)

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