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What is NVC Mediation? A Powerful Model for Healing and Reconciling Conflict
The Mediate Your Life Approach
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Max Rivers 7 Step NVC Variation Process
Pick an issue, something that’s alive now? How would you describe it?
1. Lost in thought
story, judging, jackals, (usually past and future)
Is there a story, or beliefs really present for you or in the way regarding this issue?
What are you telling yourself about this (issue, problem)?
Listen to all of them and reflect back in the same words.
When you think of (the story, belief):
Is it actually true?
What DO you know is true NOW?
3. Feelings (we’re more looking for sensations than feeling words)
What sensations do you feel in your body about this (what you know is true? Describe them (body felt sense, feeling words are ok)
4. Your Heart’s Desire (vs. the word needs)
What is your heart’s desire, not referring to anyone else? Repeat back what they say using same words. I invite you to take a moment and drop deeply into that. Not rushing.
(Layers of needs exercise) If you got X (what they say is their heart’s desire), what would you have?
Repeat that until core needs are found and the beauty of the need is experience in the core needs. (Now you have one or two words probably that describe needs or values to take into the rest of exercise).
Where in your body does your heart’s desire for (say their heart’s desire) reside? Ask them to describe how they experience it and where it is in their body using their own words.
6. What does the heart that desires (their core need or value, 1-2 words) want from you?
7. Action-Information (not use the word request)
Knowing what your heart wants, then what do YOU want to do?
Is there anything you want from others?