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STREET GIRAFFE

(Provisional Outline)

IV.

[Universal] Need-to-Phrase

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Tele-Practice Outline

Provisional  Outline of “Street Giraffe” Practice Call:

IV.  “Bricks & Mortar” – Fleshing out Universal Needs: Word-to-Phrase***

Dialogue is a conversation … the outcome of which is unknown.”  — Martin Buber

IV ~ [UNIVERSAL] NEED-to-PHRASE

E.g.

Need (word) – Effectiveness

Need Phrase – Effectiveness of a crisp message

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Alternate Need Phrase – Effectiveness of large numbers

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Shifting from the “one-word” needs to the “full-phrase” needs. This shift supports a greater sense of flow and provides a more specific context to what we are saying while still maintaining the distinction between need and strategy.  E.g. in the previous example (see prior tab), we might expand the “one-word” need respect into the “full-phrase” need as follows: “Are you frustrated because you want to be respected for your point of view even when there is disagreement?”

Speak clearly, if you speak at all; carve every word before you let it fall.
~ Oliver Wendell Holmes

Full-Phrase-Need

(Between 13 – 23:30 minute mark)

Naturalizing NVC w/ Miki KashtanYouTube

Steps:

1) Scenario; 2) Preferred Strategy; 3) [Universal] Need; 4) Phrase

[Group activity often utilizing current events for the scenario (step one)]

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“How To” ~ Steps: [Universal]-Need-to-Phrase

[PDF] — UNIVERSAL HUMAN NEEDS

Beneath via the work of Miki Kashtan: To focus on another challenging line to walk in learning to have fluidity in our communication. It’s the line that separates strategies from needs while still maintaining relevant contextual specificity in the choice of words for needs.  (Have a copy of the needs list available as you do this activity so as to enjoy variety.) Collect a variety of (for our group activity purpose – ‘current event’ related) situations in which you are very clear what the preferred strategy is for you or for someone else. For each of them, do the following steps: 1) Write down the strategy minus any evaluation or demand, just exactly what you or the other person wants; 2) Find the need that seems the most relevant to you for this strategy. If this is your preferred strategy, you can usually fully identify the need. If it’s another person’s preferred strategy, just write down your best guess.  This will almost always be just one word from the needs list: autonomy, respect, competence, love, meaning, etc.  3) Find a full phrase consisting of a few words that is specific enough to fit the context and yet is still clearly a need and not a strategy. For example, harmony with family members vs. harmony – and not “to get along with my family.”

For use during our  Dialogue-Lab (Part V) w/  iGiraffe”


ZENVC:  “iGiraffe” [click here for an enlarged view]

Utilizing “Universal-Need-Full-Phrase” in Role Plays:

1. Engage in more role plays — here’s the basic outline: a. In a particular scenario, think of your preferred strategy, and translate it into a full-phrase need. i. Find the underlying need that is expressed through this strategy. ii. Fit this need into a full-phrase need that is specific to the context and the truth of the moment without including specific people, location, action, time, or object [PLATO]. iii. If you find that elements of strategy are still present, look for a deeper need that is informing the need you previously identified.  For example, sometimes clarity can be a strategy for safety. Once you find a deeper need, it will usually be easier to find a strategy free contextualized full-phrase need. b. Communicate as fluidly as possible to your dialogic/role-play partner as that other person. Remember to include a request. c. Have your dialogic/role-play partner respond as the other person, without use of NVC. d. Apply the same process to what the other person says to respond empathically: i. Find a full-phrase need underlying whatever they said, be it strategy, judgment, demand, or anything else. ii. Put that need in an empathic guess without the words feeling or need. e. Continue in this slow-motion kind of dialogue, choosing empathy or expression in each round. 2. Offer each other empathy for whatever you want that kind of attention, and every few moments pause the process and find the full-phrase need that would fit the context. Once you reach fluency, the goal is to focus on full-phrase need language most of the time.

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Need vs. Strategy or request

Need Strategy / Request
Abstract, no reference to a specific person, action or time Specific, doable, observable behaviour
Needs are a-scriptive, it is difficult to put words on what is also described as “the universal energy that connects all of us”. Need language is probably the closest we can get to verbally describe this universal energy. Descriptive
What I want to have fulfilled What I want others or myself to do

Courtesy of ~ Need vs. Strategy or request – NVCWiki

Phrase to exclude all tangibles, i.e. PLATO – Person, Location, Action, Time or Object

Via Miki Kashtan (re: needs vs. strategies):
Needs lists, how to say this, is intrinsically an approximation, and the reason for that is because it’s isolated concepts, and life is fluid — so whether or not something is a need, some people start getting into kind of hairy conversations about whether this is a need or not.  And, for me, what matters is two things, one is to ensure that what I’m talking about is clearly not attached to specific strategies.  And there is an acronym that someone came up with that helps with that distinction.  The acronym is Plato.  Like the philosopher Plato and it stands for:

PLATO:
Person
Location
Action
Time
Object
If you have any one of those five in what you are imagining is a need, you know that it is a strategy, because it is in material reality. So that’s one thing.  Once you’ve taken all of those things out, you know that you are not in a particular strategy and you’re more likely to be in the energetic, spiritual, gestalt of the need, and then  — from there on — the second question is — “if this is sufficiently deep to find the self-connection that I want?”  So, for example, I can say that Comfort is a Need, but for me personally (I’m not saying for anyone else), most of the time (not even always) if I look inside to understand myself and what I come up with a need for comfort, it doesn’t feel like the end of a journey, it’s not really something I can go like ‘oh, yes that’s it I feel connected’ — than I keep inquiring and go deeper, but if it is sufficient than it’s a need, I don’t care what anyone else says, but in this moment it is a need.

Example:

1) ScenarioMarshall Rosenberg developed a communication process in the 1960s.[3]

2)  Preferred Strategy: Rosenberg opted to call it “Nonviolent Communication”

3) [Universal Human] Need:  __________ – Needs List

4)  Phrase: ________________________________________

Inquiry:  What Need [#3] and/or Full-Need-Phrase [#4] best captures why Marshall Rosenberg might have chosen the name “Nonviolent Communication” [#2] to refer to the dialogue process he developed in the 1960s which paralleled the civil rights & nonviolent resistance movements of that era [#1]?

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“We still have a choice today; nonviolent coexistence or violent co-annihilation.” ~ MLK

Beyond Vietnam: A Time to Break Silence – April 4, 1967

Via the CNVC.org website:

Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is based on the principles of nonviolence — the natural state of compassion when no violence is present in the heart.  NVC begins by assuming that we are all compassionate by nature and that violent strategies—whether verbal or physical—are learned behaviors taught and supported by the prevailing culture. NVC also assumes that we all share the same, basic human needs, and that each of our actions are a strategy to meet one or more of these needs.  People who practice NVC have found greater authenticity in their communication, increased understanding, deepening connection and conflict resolution.

Fodder for Thought:

The Fearless Heart: What Is “Nonviolent” about Nonviolent Communication?

Kashtan on ‘Peace’ verses ‘Nonviolence’

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Exercise Utilizing Current Events:

BayNVC’s Engaging with the World

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Example of Full-Phrase-Need:  9/11

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I think what has happened, actually, is that September 11 has given a spur, a renewed urgency, to dialogue between the great faiths. George Carey

Example (try it out yourself!):

Step One:

“9/11”

(Scenario)

Step Two:

Preferred Strategy – ______________________________

(Pick One – Yours/Another’s and/or Beneath’s):

Giuliani, Go Shopping, ABC, 19:35, 9/12 – YouTube

Did Bush Tell Americans to ‘Go Shopping‘ After 9/11?

Toni Morrison’s preferred strategy (writing a poem):

The Dead of September 11 – poem by Toni Morrison

Step Three:

CNVC: Needs List

Need – _________

(What are human needs in Nonviolent Communication?)

Step Four:

Phrase – ______________________

(Excluding ‘PLATO’ – i.e. Person, Location, Action, Time, Object)

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Specific Example:

Step One:

9/11

Step Two:

Preferred Strategy:

Imbue U.S. w/ Historical Knowledge of Other Fateful “9/11s”

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(i.e. date’s varied meaning, throughout the world, in the past century)

A Fateful Day: 9/11 Also Marks Important Anniversaries

On the anniversary of the 2001 attacks on the World Trade Center and the Pentagon, we look back at several national and international events linked to that day. This year on September 11, India will mark the 105th anniversary of Mahatma Gandhi launching the modern nonviolent resistance movement. We play part of a 2003 interview with Gandhi’s grandson, Arun… (continues – link above)

Another 9/11 Anniversary: September 11, 1973 – Democracy Now!

 TUESDAY, SEPTEMBER 11, 2001

TUESDAY, SEPTEMBER 11, 1973

bombing of La Moneda Presidential Palace on Sept. 11th 1973

Bombing of La Moneda Presidential Palace (9/11/73)

THE LAST SEPTEMBER 11

by Ariel Dorfman (penned October 3rd 2001)

I have been through this before.

During the last 28 years, Tuesday, Sept. 11, has been a date of mourning, for me and millions of others, ever since that day in 1973 when Chile lost its democracy in a military coup, that day when death irrevocably entered our lives and changed us forever. And now, almost three decades later, the malignant gods of random history have wanted to impose upon another country that dreadful date, again a Tuesday, once again an 11th of September filled with death…(continues)

Epitaph for Another 9/11: Writer Ariel Dorfman- Democracy Now!

9/11: The Day Everything Changed, in Chile

Ken Loach – Chile 1973 September 11 

U2 – Mothers of the Disappeared

Step Three:

Need ~ AWARENESS

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əˈwe(ə)rnis/
noun
  1. knowledge or perception of a situation or fact.
    “we need to raise public awareness of the issue”

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Step Four:

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Phrase:  AWARENESS of our SHADOW

The tyranny of a prince in an oligarchy is not so dangerous to the public welfare as the apathy of a citizen in a democracy. ~ Charles de Montesquieu

Our Nixon Official Theatrical Trailer (2013) – Documentary HD

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Carl Jung on Accepting the Darkness of Self and Others

The shadow is a moral problem that challenges the whole ego-personality, for no one can become conscious of the shadow without considerable moral effort. To become conscious of it involves recognizing the dark aspects of the personality as present and real. This act is the essential condition for any kind of self-knowledge.

Jung on the Shadow:  Aion (1951). CW 9, Part II: P.14

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1973 Chilean coup d’état
U.S. intervention in Chile’s 1973 coup
Bombardment of La Moneda Palace. Bombardment of La Moneda Palace.

Kissinger Telcons on Chile

When Nixon notes that “our hand doesn’t show on this one though,” Kissinger responds that “We didn’t do it” [referring to the coup itself].  I mean we helped them….created the conditions as great as possible.”

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Photo: Associated Press– NYT: President Richard M. Nixon and Henry Kissinger on Air Force One in June 1974. The two sparred over who would get the limelight both craved
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Chile and the United States: Declassified Documents

WASHINGTON D.C. – President Richard Nixon acknowledged that he had given instructions to “do anything short of a Dominican-type action” to keep the democratically elected president of Chile from assuming office, according to a White House audio tape posted by the National Security Archive. A phone conversation captured by his secret Oval Office taping system reveals Nixon telling his press secretary, Ron Zeigler, that he had given such instructions to then U.S. Ambassador Edward Korry, “but he just failed, the son of a bitch…. He should have kept Allende from getting in.”

The Pinochet File: A Declassified Dossier on Atrocity and Accountability – READ THE INTRODUCTION
A Los Angeles Times BEST NONFICTION BOOK of 2003

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Publicly:

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“We shall support vigorously the principle that no country has the right to impose its will or rule on another country by force…”
~ Nixon

Second Inaugural Address, 1973 . Nixon

 

Privately:

Nixon notes that “our hand doesn’t show on this one though…” 

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USATODAY.com:

In a subsequent conversation about Allende, Secretary of State Rogers agreed with Kissinger that “we ought, as you say, to cold-bloodedly decide what to do and then do it.”  Rogers warned that it should be done “discreetly so that it doesn’t backfire.”

“No matter what we do it will probably end up dismal,” said Rogers.

“Make the Economy Scream”: Secret Documents Show Nixon, Kissinger  Role Backing 1973 Chilean Coupe 


(Listen to recording of quote beneath, above)

“He [Ambassador Korry] was — he was instructed to — but he just failed the son-of-a-bitch, that was his main problem, he should have kept Allende from getting in.”
~ Nixon

Nixon in ’72 (prior to the 1973 coup):

Hear/Read the Documents – The Pinochet File

l) White House Audio Tape, President Richard M. Nixon and White House press secretary Ron Zeigler, March 23, 1972

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In this White House tape, President

Nixon is recorded on March 23, 1972, speaking by phone to his White House press secretary, Ron Zeigler about damage control efforts on the first major covert operations scandal of the 1970s-the ITT papers on Chile. Zeigler reports on a State Department press conference held earlier in the afternoon. He tells the president that the key issue was an ITT memo that stated that in the fall of 1970, U.S. Ambassador Edward Korry had received a “green light” from the White House to “do everything short of a Dominican Republic-type action” to stop Allende. Nixon demands to know how that leaked out, and then emphatically states that Korry “was instructed” to do that. The President then scapegoats the Ambassador for failing to carry out those instructions.  Numerous declassified records make it clear that Nixon and Kissinger explicitly ordered the CIA not to inform Ambassador Korry of their efforts to instigate a military coup to keep Allende from assuming office…(continues – The National Security Archive’s Chile Documentation Project)

[W]e’re going to give Allende the hook – nixontapes.org – Nixon

“I don’t see why we need to stand by and watch a country go communist due to the irresponsibility of its people. The issues are much too important for the Chilean voters to be left to decide for themselves.” Henry A. Kissinger

Sting – They Dance Alone – YouTube

Lyrics (excerpted):

Hey Mr. Pinochet
You’ve sown a bitter crop

It’s foreign money that supports you
One day the money’s going to stop
No wages for your torturers
No budget for your guns

Background of Song by Sting

Background:  The Nothing Like the Sun album was influenced by two events in Sting’s life: first, the death in late 1986 of his mother, which contributed to the sombre tone of several songs; and second, his participation in the Conspiracy of Hope Tour on behalf of Amnesty International, which brought Sting to parts of Latin America that had been ravaged by civil wars, and introduced him to victims of government oppression. “They Dance Alone (Cueca Solo)” was inspired by his witnessing of public demonstrations of grief by the wives and daughters of men missing in Chile, tortured and murdered by the military dictatorship of the time, who danced the cueca (the traditional dance of Chile) by themselves, with photos of their loved ones pinned to their clothes.

The Pinochet File: How U.S. Politicians, Banks & Corporations Aided Chilean Coup, Dictatorship 

Part 2, Chapter 3: States of Shock | Naomi Klein

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American travel writer Paul Theroux on the meaning of 9/11:Quote You remember exactly where you were the day the planes hit the World Trade Center, that sudden smoking vastation in the Emerald City, persisting to this day as an inerasable vision of death: horror in instalments. It began in the morning. I was in my car on Cape Cod, returning from the town dump, a beautiful day of blue sky and marine sunlight, listening to a bewildered man on the radio trying to explain to a normally jolly talk show host the inexplicable crash he had just seen from the window of his flat. “This plane, I dunno, it just slammed into the tower, never seen anything like it.” And not long afterwards, the second plane hit. We watched, stupefied – it was immediately a television event in real time – and we were bewildered; no one had the slightest idea of why it had happened or what was to come. It was a day scorched by death – flames, screams, sirens, confusion, fear and extravagant rumours (“The Golden Gate Bridge has been hit, Seattle is bracing”).  Read the rest of Paul’s piece here.

The Other September 11 – Forbes

James S. Henry – I report on global issues as an economist, attorney and journalist. Almost every American, and indeed many non-Americans, can remember exactly where he or she was on September 11, 2001… (continues) Excerpt: But it is also very important to put our own “9/11″ in context. Unfortunately for me, this is not the only September 11 that is etched indelibly in my memory.  Nor is it the only 9/11 event in the history of  international terrorism that has claimed  more than 3000 victims. In the first case noted above, Americans were  among the nearly 3000 terror victims.  In the second case described below, however, it is disturbing to recall that the US Government actually helped to cause them – at least 3065 dead and disappeared, and thousands more who were tortured. In this hour of remembrance,  as we recall our own fallen victims of terror, let us also have the strength of  character, compassion, and honesty to look this history in the eye, and recall these other victims of terror. This will not be easy. But it may help us to prevent a recurrence of the unself-critical, self-righteous, and ultimately self-defeating retributive excesses that we’ve seen throughout this very painful decade… (continues)

Faces of the Fallen

People on a New York City street scan pictures of the many police and fire personnel still missing in the wake of the attacks as of September 28, 2001.

Chile Coup Anniversary Pictures & Photos:

Chile Coup Anniversary Pictures & Photos


40 Years After Chile Coup, Family of Slain Singer Victor Jara Sues Alleged Killer in U.S. Court

Missing – (Original Trailer) – Turner Classic Movies

Was U.S. Journalist Charles Horman Killed by Chile’s Coup Regime With Aid from his own Government?

1973 Chilean Coup | Democracy Now!

“The Sound of Silence”

Art Garfunkel:  A song about the “inability of people to communicate with one another, not particularly internationally, but especially emotionally, so that what you see around you is people who are unable to love each other.  This is called The Sound of Silence.

The Sound of Silence

Hello darkness, my old friend
I’ve come to talk with you again
Because a vision softly creeping
Left its seeds while I was sleeping
And the vision that was planted in my brain
Still remains
Within the sound of silence

In restless dreams I walked alone
Narrow streets of cobblestone
‘Neath the halo of a street lamp
I turned my collar to the cold and damp
When my eyes were stabbed by the flash of a neon light
That split the night
And touched the sound of silence

And in the naked light I saw
Ten thousand people, maybe more
People talking without speaking
People hearing without listening
People writing songs that voices never share
And no one dared
Disturb the sound of silence

“Fools”, said I, “You do not know
Silence like a cancer grows
Hear my words that I might teach you
Take my arms that I might reach you”
But my words, like silent raindrops fell
And echoed
In the wells of silence

And the people bowed and prayed
To the neon god they made
And the sign flashed out its warning
In the words that it was forming
And the sign said, “The words of the prophets are written on the subway walls
And tenement halls”
And whispered in the sounds of silence

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E. Luminata

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The flash of a neon light split the night…

And the sign flashed out its warning

In the words that it was forming

And the sign said…

Animula, vagula, blandula…

Quae nunc abibs in loca,

Pallidula, frigda nundula…?

Simon & Garfunkel + Hadrian (p. 205 of E.Luminata)

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“Diamela Eltit is the prize-winning author of five novels that have attracted attention all over the Latin America, Europe, and academic circles in the United States. …Google Books

U2 – Mothers of the Disappeared – Live Popmart Santiago 1998

Post Script ~ Somehow seemed relevant to the notion of ‘street’:

Author Changes His Mind on ’70s Manifesto

Eduardo Galeano Disavows His Book ‘The Open Veins’

“ ‘Open Veins’ tried to be a book of political economy, but I didn’t yet have the necessary training or preparation,” Mr. Galeano said last month while answering questions at a book fair in Brazil, where he was being honored on the 43rd anniversary of the book’s publication. He added: “I wouldn’t be capable of reading this book again; I’d keel over. For me, this prose of the traditional left is extremely leaden, and my physique can’t tolerate it.”

Precisely why Mr. Galeano chose to renounce his book now is unclear. Through his American agent, Susan Bergholz, he declined to elaborate. She said he had gradually grown “horrified by the prose and the phraseology” of “Open Veins.”

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