Theme — Self-Connection
As the Buddha is known to have said, “You, yourself, as much as anybody in the universe, deserve your love and affection.”
Self-Connection: Mourning and Learning Daily Practice
(via Miki Kashtan – Mourning and Self-Compassion – BayNVC)
1. What’s something you did today that you have some mourning around (observation)?
2. What needs of yours were not met by this? What feelings arise when you notice these unmet needs?
3. Take some time to connect with the need. Shift your focus from how this need was not met, to the need itself. You can use the phrase: “I have a need for ….” Notice what feelings arise now.
4. Shift your focus now to understanding yourself. How were you feeling when you did this? What needs were you trying to meet by doing it?
5. Again take time to connect with the need. Shift your focus from trying to meet the need, to the need itself. You can use the phrase: “I have a need for ….” Notice what feelings arise now.
6. Spend a moment reflecting on both your unmet needs and on the needs you were trying to meet. What feelings arise in this moment?
7. What would have been another option for you to try in that moment that may have met your needs more fully? (If this question triggers any self-judgments, use the “Self-Judgments” journals, or take time for self-empathy.)
8. Do you have any requests of yourself or others around you in relation to this situation?
How to Meditate – A Guide to Formal Sitting Practice
You are traveling a path that has led to clarity, peace and deep realization for many people over thousands of years. May their awakening support and inspire you. And may the sincerity of your practice heal and free your spirit.
— Tara Brach [Videos]