Mediating One’s Life as a Mindfulness Practice

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 “Nonviolent communication is an awareness discipline masquerading as a communication process.”  
~ Kit Miler
 “I developed NVC as a way to train my attention — to shine the light of consciousness — on the places that have the potential to yield what I am seeking.”
~ Marshall Rosenberg
“Attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity.”
~ Simone Weil
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Fontaine du Dialogue, Angers.
Free Consultations:

NVC Mediation &/or Mentoring

(Supported Conversations & Empathic Coaching)
@MediateOnesLife 
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See also:  3Chairs-Project
Vision & Mission

“The vision of the 3Chairs Project is a critical mass of people around the world working together to respond to the challenges we face, and creating a peaceful, healthy, and sustainable world.

The mission of the project is people having difficult and important conversations — personal, work, political — using a ‘3 chairs’ structure and process that brings mindful awareness, compassion and collaboration to these conversations. It’s about hearing and understanding each other in our differences and our pain, without needing to agree, and connecting at the level of our shared humanity to contribute to one another’s well being. It’s about having conversations that change us, that create the life and relationships we want, and that move us toward the world we envision…” (continues)

You’re welcome to contact Pamela here for a free consultation &/or referral
“Dialogue is a conversation…the outcome of which is unknown.”
~ Martin Buber

Why did the giraffe cross the road? 


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“Experiments with Truth” — Our Monthly NVC Sangha & Dialogue-Lab — utilizing Nonviolent Communication/Conscious Communication 
(resource-laden blog &  telepractice group):

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Presence Journal (Vol. 24)
See About Page

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What is “Nonviolent” about Nonviolent Communication?

New to NVC?

 Excerpt from a worthy NVC primer:

When To Speak & When To Listen

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“If I had just one book to recommend about interpersonal communication, it would be this one.”
~ Rick Hanson, PhD

Video intro:
Cup of Empathy – YouTube

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ZENVC’s iGiraffe & Ongo Book

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The Self-Connection Process &
“Taking the 3rd Chair” in Difficult Conversations
IMG_20180530_213839The No-Fault Zone®
#MediateOnesLife

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“Never question the beauty of what you are saying because someone reacts with pain, judgment, criticism.  It just means they have not heard you.”
~ Marshall Rosenberg
The Three-Chair Model for Learning NVC [Mediation]:
Developing Capacity for Mindful Presence, Connection, & Skill with NVC

Arnold Lakhovsky – The Conversation (circa 1935)
What is NVC Mediation? A Powerful Model for Healing & Reconciling Conflict
 
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(More on my idiosyncratic take on ‘streetifying’)

 Streetify

Defined:  “In modern prose and poetry ‘street’ is used to define non-mainstream, a form of anti-establishment. It probably means to disassociate from what is regarded as ‘establishment’.”
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“I am not easily frightened. Not because I am brave but because I know that I am dealing with human
beings, and that I must try as hard as I can to understand everything that anyone ever does…” (continues)
~ Etty Hillesum in Etty: A Diary 1941–1943

 

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Other NVC Learning Venues
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Naked Pictures of Be a Arthur
#NVCpractices
“Most conversations are simply monologues delivered in the presence of a witness.”
~ Margaret Millar
Handy Handouts:

Radical Compassion‘s Pathways to Liberation Self-Assessment – Matrix

ZENVC’s Communication Flow Chart

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“The art of conversation is the art of hearing as well of being heard.”
~ William Hazlitt, Selected Essays, 1778-1830

Connected Conversations

Dialogue Prep

Three Layers of Empathy

Read the writer/writing that introduced me to NVC:

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Say it Right – Tricycle by Katy Butler
Katy Butler begins this piece by referencing an NVC tenent which posits that while our [universal-human] needs are never in conflict, our strategies for attending to them often can be.  She then presences the Buddhist precept of Right Speech, offering that many dharma teachers view Nonviolent Communication as supportive to this end.

 

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Taking the Third Chair
“Three chairs can change your life…”
~ John Kinyon
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3Chairs Process for Difficult Conversations
(via Kinyon’s Learning Resources)
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“Change happens by listening and then starting a dialogue with the people who are doing something you don’t believe is right.”
~ Jane Goodall

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Martin Luther King, Jr.’s
“Fierce Urgency of Now”
We are now faced with the fact that tomorrow is today. We are confronted with the fierce urgency of now. In this unfolding conundrum of life and history there is such a thing as being too late. Procrastination is still the thief of time. Life often leaves us standing bare, naked and dejected with a lost opportunity. The “tide in the affairs of men” does not remain at the flood; it ebbs. We may cry out desperately for time to pause in her passage, but time is deaf to every plea and rushes on. Over the bleached bones and jumbled residue of numerous civilizations are written the pathetic words: “Too late.” There is an invisible book of life that faithfully records our vigilance or our neglect. “The moving finger writes, and having writ moves on…” We still have a choice today; nonviolent coexistence or violent co-annihilation.
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By Oliver Vass
ZENVC’s Mindfulness & NVC guidebook

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Learn more

Praise for The Ongo Book (& NVC as a mindfulness practice):
“In a hurried and harried world, here are some basic and potentially powerful ideas about how to remain stable and unrocked. My guess is they will become more valuable as our various external crises deepen, and some of the distractions on which we currently lean begin to show their shallowness.”
Bill McKibben, author of Deep Economy and co-founder of 350.org
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Louise Ingram Rayner
Street Dispatches:
 My experiments with truth blog 
@StDispatches.
#streetdispatches
(forthcoming)
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 “In a real sense all life is inter-related. All men are caught in an inescapable network of mutuality, tied in a single garment of destiny. Whatever affects one directly, affects all indirectly. I can never be what I ought to be until you are what you ought to be, and you can never be what you ought to be until I am what I ought to be… This is the inter-related structure of reality.” ― Martin Luther King Jr., Letter from Birmingham Jail: Martin Luther King Jr.’s Letter from Birmingham Jail and the Struggle That Changed a Nation
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“Man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore.”
— Andre Gide
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