Since 2011, when I first conceived of this blog, its title “street giraffe” has morphed and come to mean a myriad of differing things, for me personally, however at its root it’s a synonym for Nonviolent Communication.
Street Giraffe is a term originally coined by the late Marshall Rosenberg to connote a more colloquial form of NVC.
(More as to “street giraffe” [jackal/giraffe] origin story here)
“This means prioritizing the consciousness over the form…”
~ Miki Kashtan
Beneath courtesy of Louise Evans, Coach/Corporate Trainer, Author of 5 Chairs 5 Choices:
“…and for all his sweetness, he had the tiger and the jackal in his soul.” Voltairine de Cleyre
“I once asked Marshall Rosenberg, creator of Nonviolent Communication, what it would take for me to ‘really learn this stuff’. His answer: ‘Practice, practice, practice.'” (continues)
– Lucy Leu, author of Nonviolent Communication Companion Workbook
Additional information, beneath, regarding both NVC (a.k.a. Conscious Communication) & NVC Mediation Resources
Our free ‘dialogue lab’ (skill-building) tele-practice group w/ iGiraffe has an affiliated Street Giraffes blog — which also serves as a cache of heuristic materials for further, self-discovered, self-appropriated exploration. The intention of both the blog and group format is to blend complementary modalities, such as interweaving Focusing & Mindfulness, towards the end of each having an opportunity to carve out their own, individuated path (as an NVC practitioner).
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- What is working about your [NVC/dialogic] practice?
- What gets in the way of communicating mindfully?
- What is your vision for speaking & listening with equanimity/presence?
- What next step(s) can you take to enhance the quality of connection you seek?
Kate Raffin – On Flowers, Tears and Lightbulbs
“Balancing my yearning to grow with acceptance of who I am right now”
‘An NVC practice as dustpan & brush…’
– Kit Miller
Composting from the grist of our everyday lives
Other NVC Learning Venues
Practice Groups | CNVC
Online practice groups | CNVC
Compassionate Leadership Free Teleclass
Fearless Heart Teleseminars (see more)
Ongo Online Retreat: The Practice of Everyday Life – ZENVC
Kinyon’s free online Mediate Your Life practice group
(Via Wiki: Giraffe on the Masai Mara by Richard Rhee)
Say What You Mean
“If I had just one book to recommend about interpersonal communication, it would be this one.”
~ Rick Hanson, PhD
Ike Lasater (at about the 7 minute mark, beneath): “And, of course, you can use these skills in your day to day life…We use mediation as the metaphor, but this is really about mediating your life: how to go from the conflicts within your head, to conflicts with other people, to supporting — by lending your skills — to people who are in conflict.”
The Three-Chair Model for Learning NVC [Mediation]:
Developing Capacity for Mindful Presence, Connection, and Skill with NVC
By Ike Lasater & John Kinyon
With Julie Stiles
“…We find the three-chair model to be a powerful pedagogical tool that goes beyond people simply learning conflict resolution skills. It provides a unique way to practice with close in time feedback from a coach and others, it offers ample opportunity for personal growth, helps people integrate core NVC skills into their daily life, and supports the development of concrete mediation skills. As we have used this model over the course of years, we see the small shifts people make accumulate over time, fundamentally shifting their ability to be present and connect with themselves and others even in difficult conflictual situations. This gives us hope. With the looming crisis we see ahead—exponential population growth and climate change resulting in huge dislocations of people, all greater stimulus for conflict—we would like people to be able to cope more effectively with whatever lies in the future, collectively and individually. For us, NVC and the three-chair model provide a strategy for people to integrate skills into their lives that allow them to learn a whole new way of being and be agents for the creation of the kind of world that they want to live in.”
Vision & Mission
The vision of the 3Chairs Project is a critical mass of people around the world working together to respond to the challenges we face, and creating a peaceful, healthy, and sustainable world.
The mission of the project is people having difficult and important conversations — personal, work, political — using a “3 chairs” structure and process that brings mindful awareness, compassion and collaboration to these conversations. It’s about hearing and understanding each other in our differences and our pain, without needing to agree, and connecting at the level of our shared humanity to contribute to one another’s well being. It’s about having conversations that change us, that create the life and relationships we want, and that move us toward the world we envision…
Monthly free online Mediate Your Life practice group with John Kinyon. First Fridays of the month (unless otherwise posted), 12-1pm Pacific. All are welcome, regardless of experience with NVC or Mediate Your Life training. The sessions include: Q&A, demonstrations, and information about Compassionate Communication/Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and Mediate Your Life training… (continues)
John Kinyon, “Three chairs can change your life…”
Excerpt (via John Kinyon): “Three chairs can change your life. In the world of professional dispute resolution, the three chairs represent two disputants and a mediator. In our Mediate Your Life training, you learn to ‘take the third chair.’ From this perspective, you perceive a different reality. You become more centered and effective in responding to life’s challenges and conflicts…. Seeing the situation from the third chair can be very difficult. Although obvious and simple at one level, the shift in perspective is a radical one that goes deeper and deeper. I have at times found it quite challenging — and also extremely valuable — to live this out in my own life…” (continues)
Essay by Ike Lasater:
What is NVC Mediation? A Powerful Model for Healing and Reconciling Conflict
Lasater, “To be a human being is to regularly be in conflict with oneself and others…” (continues)